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Hey, it’s Marie Forleo and you are watching MarieTV, the place to be if you want to create a business in life you love, and this is Q&A Tuesday. Today’s question comes from Paige in New Zealand. She writes, “Hi, Marie. I’m just about to turn 19. Even though I’m young, I have big dreams. Problem is people keep telling me my dreams are not realistic and that I’m letting myself down. I was going to be a doctor and then decided that wasn’t really what I wanted. Now, I want to be a professional event and party planner and grow my business into something huge that I can be proud of. How can I get past caring so much about what others think? Should I play it safe and get a degree in something that has a secure job at the end of it? What’s your advice for young people just starting out in the business world? There’s so much I don’t know and your YouTube channel is really helping me. Thank you.”

Paige, these are awesome questions and I think it’s something that all of us can relate to no matter what age we are. The first thing I want to talk about is what you shared, “Should I get a degree with a secure job at the end of it?” A little reality check for you, my love. Those days are over. There’s really no such thing as a secure job anymore. I think if you take a look around at what’s happening in the world, you go into any Starbucks and you’ll see some lawyers and some stockbrokers networking out of there who would totally back me up on this. Paige, I know you said you want to start your own business and that’s awesome, but for everyone else, even if you don’t want to start your own business, hear me on this.

Entrepreneurship is a mindset that everyone on the planet needs. If you want to thrive now and in the future, the only people that are going to really make it in this world are people that will take initiative, that’ll take action and that think and behave like entrepreneurs. One of the first and most important things about that is getting real comfortable with not giving a flying fudge what other people think about you. Let me take you back in my own life. I was only a few years older than you when I decided that I wanted to be a life coach. Now you got to get this. This was back when no one even heard of a life coach. Those words, life coach, made as much sense to people as dream farmer or potato doctor. And exhale. You still getting baked? Turn your head and cough for me.

Plus, I was 23 years old. I mean who in their right mind would hire a 23-year-old life coach. Even I was rolling my eyes at myself. The point is, don’t let anyone’s bullshit opinions or judgments about what you can’t do, especially your own, stop you from following your dreams. You will never do anything great in your life if you’ve got this song stuck in your head:

Judging eyes, they’re judging you. They judge your every move. Judging eyes. They’re judging you. Judging eyes. They’re judging you, judging you, judging you.

Paige, you say you want to plan parties and events, so get to it, woman. Don’t wait for people to give you permission or until you have some degree. Just find somebody who needs a party planned and plan the confetti out of it. And then you do another and then another and then another and then all of a sudden, mazel tov, you are a party planner.

Now in terms of education, I am 100% for education. In fact, I always advocate for people to be lifelong learners, but don’t limit your education to only what you can learn in the classroom. You should consider getting a job or two with more established event planners so you can really learn about the industry from the inside out. And then there’s one more thing, and this is my final and perhaps more important piece of advice. You’ve got to be really conscious of who you surround yourself with. You’ve got to get rid of everybody who’s negative and all the naysayers so if that means getting some new friends, definitely do it. You also want to feed yourself some really positive things to your mind and your body and your soul day after day. I know you love MarieTV because it’s a positive, wholesome family kind of show and of course it’s gluten-free.

Remember, keep surrounding yourself with positive people. In fact, you should find some people your age and get inspired by them. Everybody knows I’m a huge fan of Malala Yousafzai, who is your age, Paige, and there’s also another incredibly inspiring young woman. Her name is Tavi Gevinson. You can find entrepreneur groups in your area, you can find them online. The bottom line here is that with the right support and the right attitude and a ton of action, you can create anything you desire. Paige, that was my [inaudible 00:05:03] Q. Hope it helps. Now I would love to hear from you. Have you ever accomplished something that people around you said was unrealistic? How did you handle their criticism and their doubt? I would love to know your story. Tell me about it in the comments below. Now, of course, the best discussions happen after the episode over at marieforleo.com so go there and leave a comment now.

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