How to Channel Your Anger Into a Force For Good

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Hey, it’s Marie Forleo and you are watching MarieTV, the place to be to create a business and life you want to snuggle with and cuddle with and kiss and love. Today’s question comes from Ava who writes:

“Hi, Marie. I’m Ava. I’m 6 years old. My question is, why did God make the feeling of anger? I ask my mom every day if Marie is gonna answer my question today. Thank you. Love you. Ava.”

Oh, my goodness. Ava. This, honestly, is one of the best questions ever. Thank you so much. And I’ve got to say, huge thanks to Ava’s mom for sending it in to us.

You know, one of the things that my mom taught me when I was just about your age is that I could talk with God any time I wanted to. You know, she said I had this direct line to God and I could ask questions, and I’d always get an answer back. What I’d have to do is just listen to that still, small voice inside. And that’s how I’d hear my answer.

Now, that said, I do have an A for your Q.
So my belief is this. I believe that God made anger so that we could use to to create a much better, more loving world.

And here’s what I mean by that. Anger, it’s really a natural emotion. It’s not bad, and it’s certainly not wrong to feel. Anger really is just energy, and all energy can be transformed. Almost like magic. Just like electricity or heat. And you want to know what else? This is something most people don’t know. Once you understand anger and you really know how to use it, it can actually turn into this super powerful and super positive force. Because it can help you do things like stand up and speak out to help other people.

So, for instance, let’s say that you saw someone being mean to another person. Now, you might start to feel angry about that. Right? Well, guess what? You can take that feeling and you can use it as fuel to do something positive like maybe protect that person or speak up for them and their rights.

So I really think that God gave us anger so that we could use it to transform it into the most powerful force in the entire universe. And you know what that is? That force is love. And here are three steps that’ll help you do just that.

Step number one, first thing you’ve gotta do is you’ve gotta really feel it. So when I say feel it, here’s what I mean. I want you to take a really deep breath and see if you can feel that energy somewhere in your body. Just like you know how excitement can sometimes feel like butterflies in your belly? Well, see if you can feel that anger energy in your body.

So is it in your chest or maybe is it in your throat? Or maybe it’s in your big right toe. Because when you allow yourself to really feel an emotion in your body, typically it only lasts just a few seconds before it changes into something else.

So when you really allow yourself to feel that energy, then we’re gonna be ready to move on to step number two.
Step number two is this: you’ve gotta question it. Now, here’s what I mean by that. I want you to get really curious and ask yourself, Ava, what exactly do you feel angry about? What do you feel is wrong right now? And, more importantly, why?

So ask yourself, what do you think should happen instead? This is where perhaps it would be a good idea to talk with your mom or your favorite teacher, or you can even jot down your answers or draw a picture about it. Because understanding what you feel angry about and why is gonna help you understand your values or what you really care about in this life. So some examples are things like fairness or kindness or generosity. And once you know your values, that can help you move on to step number three, which is this.

Step number three is where we get to transform it. And this, my darling, is where all of the magic happens.

So remember, right, anger is just energy and all energy can be transformed. Now, you want to ask yourself, is there some positive action that you might want to take to either help yourself or to help someone else? Is there something that you might want to make or share with others? Is there something that you can imagine that you could do to help you convert or transform that energy into a loving, positive action?

Now, once again, this is all really great stuff to talk about with your mom or your favorite teacher, or really any grownup in your life that you trust. And I want you to hear a quote on this topic from someone who’s one of my heroes in life, Dr. Maya Angelou. Who said this.

“Use that anger. You write it. You paint it. You dance it. You march it. You vote it. You do everything about it.”

Now, one more thing, Ava. Do you remember in the beginning that I said that my mom taught me that I have this direct line to God? Well, guess what? I do. So why don’t we call up God right now and make sure that I didn’t leave anything out of my answer?

Marie? You usually text. What’s up, momma?

Hi, God. Really quick, I know your time is so valuable. So I am shooting this MarieTV episode for Ava, who wanted to know why you created anger. And I want to make triple sure that I don’t leave anything out of my answer.

Marie, you nailed it. As usual.

But, hey, God. We’re just shooting this. How could you see it already?

Come on, girl. I’m God.

Yes. I don’t know why I always forget. I think because we’re such good friends. Okay, well, thank you so much. You know how much I love you. Have an amazing day, and I’ll talk you to soon. Bye.

Bye.

So there you have it. You heard the word from God herself. Your Q has now been A’d, and I really do hope it helps, Ava. Please keep me posted.

And now I would love to hear from you. So what’s an example from your life where you took that energy of anger, you know, that very fiery feeling that we all get, and you transformed it into something healthy and positive? I want Ava to see some concrete examples, because I feel like they help all of us learn in a much more productive way. So let’s talk about it in the comments below.

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