Happy, Happy 2010!
I’ve been quiet over the past few weeks, not because I don’t love ya
, but because I’ve been recharging my batteries and taking some much needed Marie “unplugged” time.
One of the dangers of loving what you do is how incredibly addictive it becomes. Especially when you have an online business and the laptop, email and social media is always beckoning.
But right before Christmas I made a conscious decision to step away from my normal routine and spend an extended period of time doing what my mind considers “non-business” related activities.
You know, tons of time with family, friends, going shopping, watching movies, doing lots of yoga, playing games, reading fun books, learning new recipes – cool stuff like that.
(Side note: if you’re into scary movies like I am, you HAVE to go see Daybreakers when it comes out. I saw an advanced screening and it was A-freaking-mazing!!)
This unplugged time has been incredibly refreshing and probably one of the best things I could have done for my business.
In fact, a few really productive practices sprang out of this time off that I want to share with you.
These three are fast and actionable and I guarantee will help bring you more money, happiness and fun in 2010 starting right now.
1. Clear your electronic decks.
Have a look at your inbox and I’ll bet you’re subscribed to a ton of random newsletters and lists that do nothing but waste your time, scatter your attention, or at worst, send you so far into comparison land that it takes you weeks to energetically recover.
(You know comparison land, right? It’s that place you go when you look at other people’s businesses or lives, then look at yourself, and inevitably feel like you suck and should just quit and crawl under a rock. )
The past two weeks I unsubscribed from so many lists it felt like I got an info-colonic.
Seriously.
My rule of thumb for whether or not to unsubscribe from a list is to check for two key elements:
How I feel and what are my results are after reading someone’s information. Ask yourself:
Are you inspired into action?
Do you feel like you’ve had a spiritual, financial or emotional vitamin or just ingested the information equivalent of a bag of Doritos and a Mountain Dew?
Does the information help you make more money or bring you more happiness or do you get distracted and click on 7 other sites, blink, and realize 4 hours have slipped away.
Here’s the deal. We all get the same 24 hours in a day.
It’s how you’ll spend them in 2010 that will determine whether or not you have an awesome year.
If you have big dreams and goals for 2010 like I do, you need to clear out as much space as possible and be conscious of how you spend your time and attention.
Block out an hour right now to clear your electronic decks.
Respond to any old emails that have been lingering and unsubscribe from any list that does not make you feel great and help you see powerful results in your life. Be ruthless and cut out more than you think.
If you find yourself missing someone’s communication, you can always re-subscribe.
2. Reduce your physical “stuff” by at least 50%.
The euphoric feeling from getting rid of excess junk in your physical space is almost as good as sex. (I said almost, people.)
What started out as an innocent, quick ‘clean up’ before my family arrived for Christmas eve turned into an all night purging party.
Josh and I went to town. Drinking wine, playing music and filling 6 full garbage bags with chuckable or give-a-way-able stuff.
Here’s what’s crazy. We’re pretty minimalist as it is.
So for us to find that much crap in our NYC apartment tells me that people who live in normal sized houses outside of Manhattan have ridiculous amounts of extra stuff.
So I would strongly encourage you to have your own New Year purging party today.
Best bet is to start small. One drawer; one closet; one room.
And once again, be ruthless with what you get rid off.
Go for reducing your physical stuff by at least 50%. If you haven’t used something in 3-6 months and it has no real sentimental value, get rid of it.
Donate it if it’s in good condition or recycle if possible.
And I’d highly suggest doing this with a partner or friend so you don’t get seduced into reading every piece of paper or looking at every old picture you find. Wine and music helps too.
There’s an odd, yet reliable connection between clearing physical space and proactively calling in new ideas, fresh opportunities and other unexpected “magic” into your life.
3. Practice the T.I.O. method.
A few years ago, I had a wicked habit of opening emails, pieces of mail, etc. and saying to myself, “I’ll handle that later.”
This habit also extended to things like not hanging up my clothes, not putting my shoes back in the closet, not changing light bulbs, waiting till the last minute to sign up for things, etc.
Saying you’re going to handle something later is a recipe for extreme overwhelm, clutter and a backlog of ‘to dos” to deal with. (Not to mention late fees, penalties and other silly money wasting practices.)
Just think about all the psychological time and energy we waste thinking about doing stuff. Hours upon hours wondering whether or not we should do it; trying to remember to do it; wondering if we did it . . . you get the idea.
The T.I.O. or touch it once method means making a habit of only touching something once.
Open the mail and have a bill? Pay it right then and there.
Click on an email that needs a response? Take the 10 – 30 seconds and respond on the spot.
Used to randomly throwing clothes around the house? Put them exactly where they belong the first time.
See a trip or program you know you want to sign up for? Do it now for heaven’s sake.
Before the holidays, my wicked habit resurfaced and I started to feel some serious backlog building up.
Once I unplugged for Christmas, however, I got right back to my T.I.O. practice and boy does it feel good!
Touch it once trains you to start dealing with things more efficiently. You’ll think twice about checking your email 100 times a day if you know you have to deal with whatever is there immediately.
This gives you more time and energy for what’s really important (making love; making money; having fun
.
T.I.O. also automatically strengthens your truth telling muscles. How? Because once a request for your time or piece of information enters your world, you train yourself to tell the truth on the spot.
You’ll automatically get rid of “maybes” or “this could come in handy someday” and get real.
For example, when you’re practicing T.I.O., if you know you’re not going to a party, you’ll decline immediately rather than torture yourself (and the host) with a last minute response.
Most importantly T.I.O. helps you stay on top of your game so you can quickly take advantage of the truly important opportunities coming your way in 2010.
Don’t let the simplicity of these three strategies deceive you.
Most people have so much clutter in their life (electronic, physical, psychological) that there’s not enough “white space” to really launch into the New Year in a powerful and purposeful way.
While this list is a good start, I’m sure you’ve got gems to add.
Any of this resonate for you?
Do you have any simple, yet actionable advice to help us all get 2010 off to a fantastic start? Let me know by leaving a comment. I’d love to hear from you.
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T.I.O. those are letters to live by.
Already have the maximumly minimal thing going on in my home (and it’s ahhhhh!)… but not on my computer. How good might THAT feel??
Thanks for getting clear… and sharing it with us, Marie!
SUPER DUPER good Jeanne!! you are so welcome
Marie — this ROCKS. Thanks for a breath of of fresh air and fun, doable changes to make. Hope all is fantastic! xo-B
Miss you beautiful! We need to do some dancing together soon. thank you so much for swingin’ by!! (yes – all is pretty darn good
Hey Marie! Hope all is well!
The One touch approach is excellent!
And yes with a new year in full swing, and decade, why not open
the floodgates for all good things a’ coming!!!
Thanks much! Love it!
Lourdes! that’s what I’m talking about woman
xoo M
I am in love with T.I.O!! I am so guilty of putting things aside and waiting to decide what to do with them later because often I am in overwhelm and my brain is shutting down in the moment. But I am seeing that the brain might not get so full if I don’t create the backlog in the first place. Brilliant! Thanks, Marie, for the practical and wise suggestions, as always!! Much love and can’t wait to rock it in 2010!!
xoxo
Melissa
I never knew how popular T.I.O would become!!
absolutely excited for a rockin’ 2010 with you woman.
What a great post – perfect motivation for the start of a new year! I have already started to put T.I.O into action with great results. I also had a huge clear out over the Christmas holiday and I noticed how many items I had that at the time were a ‘must-have’ purchase and now only serve the purpose of gathering dust and cluttering up my cupboards. In 2010 I will certainly be more thoughtful about what I spend my money on and how long I spend shopping for these items. Perhaps my time and money could be put to better use elsewhere.
Ooohhwie you hit it girl. Most of us have WAY more $$ than we even realize to devote to what’s really important to us.
Good one, I am going to put those tips into practice right now…!!
Yay Kathryn!
Wonderful post, as always, Marie! Thanks for bringing up “comparison land”…always good to remember that one!
Hey Jennifer! I was JUST thinking about you today. I know – right? I’m actually having a lot of fun with comparison lately – cool stuff! xo
Many thanks for inspiration! At the moment dealing myself with all three points. Tomorrow No 2 will be actively tackled – the project is called “audit of the closet”: a few objective and stylish girlfriends will attend as the distinguished members of the audit comission. Though not sure yet about the 50% result, but we’ll see.:)
Greetings from Lithuania!
nice work Egle – friends with style are PERFECT for the audit commission! SO great to have such an awesome international crowd here!! that’s why I LOVE the internet!!
thank you for this! it was great and i am indeed ready for action
u are welcome!
Hey Marie…
Ur 3rd tip is totally the way to go…. Luking at piled up things [whatever] really scares the stuff out of us…
N I did follow the 1st tip too… N it really felt a lot better..
Excellent Ankita!!
I am in agreement……I have already started my toss it. I also went to Wal-Marts
and bought a plastic tub with lid, so I can place all of my non-seasonal items in it. and
carry it to the atic. Will make next spring so much easier. Spring will be hear before we know it.
June
nice june!! thanks for the “spring will be here soon” reminder! I just shoveled for a few hours and while the snow is beautiful, I’m a warm weather gal at heart!!
Great post and philosophy, I read myself into your post, so true.
I’m starting now, touch it once in 2010~!
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Thanks Tony! It’s a great and simple tactic to use as MUCH as you can
Marie, I just love your blog, and you give such sound advise! Both practical and inspirational. Throwing away stuff can be very difficult, but it can be such a relief! Sometimes I take pictures of things with sentimental value I want to throw away, so I can always look them up on my computer later.
Yeaah for Amsterdam Wilma! I’ve been to your city lots of times for work with Nike
That’s a very cool idea – taking a picture and saving it electronically!
M,
Lemme tell ya. I have carried over the junk fest to my store and man
are we kicking ass. We are having so much fun joking about how much
shit we have and getting rid of it ALL.
We have like a zillion boxes in our warehouse for product in the gift
area of the store. We started matching product with boxes and have
found that we have more boxes than product. I mean TONS more boxes
than product.
I can literally feel the store letting out a huge SIGH b/c we are
throwing away so much shit.
And TIO! Forget about it. So simple and easy to use!
Holla!
PEACE!
JR
I hope you’ll let me view you’re blog since I’m not a woman- I feel like I’m crashing a big slumber party or something.;) I have to say, you love the way your personality comes out in your blog, that has a huge appeal. You do a great job with this blog, thanks for the amazing content:)
Hey David! Men are TOTALLY welcome here
FYI, we’ve got some very smart men who come around often and even do our programs (think about it… learning cool stuff with smart, fun, enthusiastic, successful women – how can you go wrong?!?)
Thank you VERY much and hope you’ll stick around!
Oh yes, yes! You’ve got your priorities right for sure! I mean -it is more fun to have sex than to worry about things you SHOULD do, but don’t have the guts to decide yes or no
(It is sometimes much harder to handle your own stuff).
Cleaning if FUN! The relief of throwing away things that just sit there, and are not used, or beautiful – wow! The energy this creates! I used to say I love my ex, since he left so much stuff behind when he finally moved out, that I have something to throw away or burn every time I feel down
And girls, it gets easier with practice!
Love you!
Tiiu
Now that’s funny Tiiu!
Hi Marie,
OMG…what great and “keep it simple” ideas to start the new year off fresh and free! You are truly an inspiration to every woman (and man) out there!
When I was thinking of doing all these “simple” things, it became a bit overwhelming figuring out how I was actually going to DO IT! Then I read further in your blog and saw Egle’s idea of having stylish friends over to help with the “audit the closet” session…I love it! The other option in your blog is Grasie Mercedes…fantastic way to start the new year!
TIO…is where I need help!!! I have the entire year of 2009 to update all my bank, credit card etc. statements into my Quicken in order to prepare for my taxes (because it went into the I’ll do it later pile). I continue to procrastinate because the task will be arduous. And I am already putting the 2010 items in the pile behind 2009. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated on how to tackle this stressful pile of papers waiting in limbo to start the new year fresh?!!
Thank you so much for sharing such great advise…Deb
WONDERFUL post. Totally agree that certain emails can leave you in comparison land… and implementing TIO tonight! Love it – particularly when it comes to email and saving myself from constantly hitting send/receive… Thank you!
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Love your post. Totally agree. I love #3. I am going to integrate it. Won’t be easy.
Great post marie, have a wonderful 2010.
Great advice! I think I need to start scheduling in some purging time into my week. I have been feeling really overwhelmed by all of the stuff that I want to do and all of the things that I am not able to finish each day. Maybe if I eliminate some of the clutter and make some white space like you said, I will be able to feel like I have accomplished more when I finally allow myself to stop working.
Thanks for the great tips!
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