Archive for the Self Confidence
Confession: I’ve got goosebumps as I write this…
Why? Because I’ve been quietly working on something that I’ve been wanting to do for a LONG time. And it’s finally ready, but before I tell you about it, I want to share a simple, healing idea.
Just this morning I was at Yoga class here in Sag Harbor and I realized something profound:
We human beings need presence and connection. Our bodies, minds and souls long to be connected to one another and connected to the deeper intelligence of life itself.
When we are truly present, something in and around us is healed and energized. It doesn’t require effort or strain. Only guidance,
attention and if you’re lucky, a loving community.
When you have those three things, life becomes sweet. Stress, worry, and “drama” naturally fall away. What’s left is your brilliance. You can interact with any situation with clarity and compassion. You also enjoy an expanded ability to create, enjoy and make a difference in the world. It’s wonderfully ordinary and profoundly extraordinary all at once!
Discovering how to live in this state of presence has truly been the most powerful thing I’ve ever learned in my life.
And now, I’d like to invite YOU to join me on this exciting adventure and bring the power of presence into your own life.
Interested? If so, learn more about what I’ve been working on here. If you’ve been itching for a fun, affordable way to work with me and launch into an entirely new way of living, here’s your chance. I’d love to have you join us!
If you’ve been getting excited about the new “Sex and the City” movie, this is for you. In fact, if you’re a big SATC fan, you’ll remember the classic “Modelizer” episode from Season 1.
The modelizer is the crazy character who would only date models. Guess what? Yours truly landed the “Modelizer”… and I’m not even a model!
The lesson here is no matter who you are or where you live, there are easy ways to boost your irresistible charm. Here are six secrets that helped me land the man of my dreams:
1. Quit Complaining
Many women spend more time complaining about men than actually dating them! Want to turbo boost your irresistibility factor? Be a complaint free zone. That means no complaining about the weather, your job, your body or anything else - whether aloud or in your thoughts.
2. Burn Your Perfect Man Checklist
If you can’t find a guy with the right job, age, income, ethnicity or hair color, chances are you’ve fallen victim to using a Perfect Man Checklist. You know… a list of criteria any man must have before you’ll even consider dating him. The problem with the Perfect Man Checklist is that it’s often an unconscious compilation of ideals and mental pictures of “perfect men” we absorbed growing up. These narrow parameters from our past cut us off from boatloads of loving, single and available men that could be fantastic partners today.
*NOTE: Burning your Perfect Man Checklist does NOT mean your man won’t have the qualities you want (like honesty, loyalty or a sense of humor). It just means he may show up in a different “package” than you expect.
3. Ignite Your Naughty Factor
In the midst of our busy, fast-paced lives, women’s sex lives can often take a back seat. It’s essential for our spiritual and emotional well-being to keep our “sexy” in shape. The way to wake up our sensual irresistibility is to proactively ignite our naughty factor. Take a pole dancing class, wear sexy underwear to work, or buy some erotic fiction. Find ways to strengthen your naughty muscles and stay in irresistible sexual shape.
4. Date for Fun - Not to Find “The One”
These days, dating is often full of pressure and anxiety. Let go of trying to find “Mr. Right” and make FUN the focus of each date (what a concept!). Have an adventure. Laugh. Be silly. Let your true irresistible nature shine through. Remember, on any date you can either be miserable or have a good time. The choice is always yours. *NOTE: This FUN idea applies to couples too!
5. Chuck The Rules
I say rules, shmules. Most dating rules are either someone else’s truth that you’ve adopted as your own OR they’re an old decision you made in the past when you were upset. Either way, rules pollute the present moment with obsolete information from our past. Know this: you can break every rule in the book when you are centered, clear and in touch with your authentic irresistibility.
6. Be Present
Be fully present in whatever you’re doing. This is especially true on dates. Turn off your iPhone, Blackberry or cell phone unless it’s absolutely necessary to keep it on. Give the man you’re with the divine gift of your full, undivided attention. There is nothing more irresistible than a vibrantly alive, fully present woman.
The real secret to being irresistible is to be completely and unapologetically you, exactly as you are.
Most of us grossly underestimate our intrinsic beauty and the powerful difference we make in the world. Trust me, you are more beautiful, attractive and irresistible than you’ll ever know.
Have you ever gotten stuck being “reasonable” about life?
A few weeks ago I almost got snookered. Here’s what happened.
I was speaking to a group of entrepreneurs about productivity and well-being at a conference in Walt Disney World, Orlando Florida. I was thrilled to share the power of transformation as it relates to productivity, wealth and well-being.
Being a gal who likes to balance business and pleasure, I built fun time into the last day of my trip. Since my flight back to NYC wasn’t until 5PM, I had time for rollercoasters and Mickey before heading home.
On Sunday morning I woke up at 8:30AM and headed down to the concierge desk to find out my options.
