Comments on: How To Talk About “Repetitive Behavior” In Your Relationships http://marieforleo.com/blog/2007/10/04/how-to-talk-about-%e2%80%9crepetitive-behavior%e2%80%9d-in-your-relationships/ Tue, 06 Jan 2009 09:30:21 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.2.1 By: Hanna http://marieforleo.com/blog/2007/10/04/how-to-talk-about-%e2%80%9crepetitive-behavior%e2%80%9d-in-your-relationships/#comment-15 Hanna Tue, 16 Oct 2007 22:55:04 +0000 http://marieforleo.com/blog/2007/10/04/how-to-talk-about-%e2%80%9crepetitive-behavior%e2%80%9d-in-your-relationships/#comment-15 Hi Marie, Thank you for your insight and thoughts on the subject of repetitive behaviour. I am the author of the question. I agree listening and truly seeing other side's point and perspective will help in mutual understanding. What I have realized just recently is that how the person treats us has a lot to do how we allow to be treated. My friend who cancels on me a lot is overall busy and I am sure I am not the only one she changes her plan with... but I have realized my lousy and relaxed approach to time management, plans, always being ready and willing to go out – makes she does not value my time… as neither I value it, honestly. She does not take my time seriously as I give her the signals I do not take it seriously. Why would she be better with treating me than I am myself? This is just an example of how what we think of ourselves gives an example other follow and just mirror our own patterns. I decided I change my approach to my free time first - becoming more unavailable and busy, appreciating the time I have free, do not agree with her every offer to go out and if she still does do the same... talk to her as you clearly pointed out above. Thank you very much for your answer again! Hanna Hi Marie,

Thank you for your insight and thoughts on the subject of repetitive behaviour.

I am the author of the question.

I agree listening and truly seeing other side’s point and perspective will help in mutual understanding.

What I have realized just recently is that how the person treats us has a lot to do how we allow to be treated.

My friend who cancels on me a lot is overall busy and I am sure I am not the only one she changes her plan with… but I have realized my lousy and relaxed approach to time management, plans, always being ready and willing to go out – makes she does not value my time… as neither I value it, honestly. She does not take my time seriously as I give her the signals I do not take it seriously.

Why would she be better with treating me than I am myself?

This is just an example of how what we think of ourselves gives an example other follow and just mirror our own patterns.

I decided I change my approach to my free time first - becoming more unavailable and busy, appreciating the time I have free, do not agree with her every offer to go out and if she still does do the same… talk to her as you clearly pointed out above.

Thank you very much for your answer again!

Hanna

]]> By: Marilyn http://marieforleo.com/blog/2007/10/04/how-to-talk-about-%e2%80%9crepetitive-behavior%e2%80%9d-in-your-relationships/#comment-14 Marilyn Sat, 13 Oct 2007 02:11:31 +0000 http://marieforleo.com/blog/2007/10/04/how-to-talk-about-%e2%80%9crepetitive-behavior%e2%80%9d-in-your-relationships/#comment-14 Hi Marie, I do love reading your stories from other women. I am attracted to a man that I met 7 months ago. The problem is that he usually works 7 days a week. He will see me once every two weeks if that. At first I thought he was married. He is not. I believe he has financial stress and that is why he does not want to get real serious. He does call me usually every day for at least 5 minutes. Sometimes, he calls and we can talk for an hour. He makes it very clear that he cares for me and he is attracted to me but he cannot "at this time" make a commitment to dating me like I want. So, basicly I've decided to move on and see other men. He is the man I want to see though. It is very hard for me to let go with this man. There are many other things that he does that I cannot understand but yet it would take to long to type. I think if you knew the whole situation you could give me a better outlook and possibly an accurate answer. Can you give me any advise to make me move forward and enjoy dating again. Thanks, Warm Regards, Marilyn Hi Marie,

I do love reading your stories from other women.

I am attracted to a man that I met 7 months ago. The problem is that he usually works 7 days a week. He will see me once every two weeks if that. At first I thought he was married. He is not. I believe he has financial stress and that is why he does not want to get real serious. He does call me usually every day for at least 5 minutes. Sometimes, he calls and we can talk for an hour. He makes it very clear that he cares for me and he is attracted to me but he cannot “at this time” make a commitment to dating me like I want. So, basicly I’ve decided to move on and see other men. He is the man I want to see though. It is very hard for me to let go with this man. There are many other things that he does that I cannot understand but yet it would take to long to type. I think if you knew the whole situation you could give me a better outlook and possibly an accurate answer. Can you give me any advise to make me move forward and enjoy dating again. Thanks, Warm Regards, Marilyn

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