Do you ever get confused or frustrated by the contradictory ‘how to get what you want out of life’ advice out there? Sometimes it feels like all the gurus preach opposing information and it can be hard to know who to trust. If you’ve ever felt that way, you’re not alone.

It’s no ’secret’ there’s been a ton of buzz this year about the Law of Attraction and how our thoughts and energy impact our ability to produce results in our life.

Unfortunately, most people who try to use the Law of Attraction to improve their lives find themselves more frustrated and stuck then before. If you’ve ever felt more ‘in your head’ and lost after trying to attract what you want, then you know exactly what I’m talking about.

Last week, I received a brilliant email from Sara in the UK on this very subject. If you’d like to see my take, read on…

READER QUESTION:

“Hi Marie, I’m 45 years old and have read lots of self-help books. I’m really interested in what you said about 98% of the self-help material out there being wrong. Most others teach you to just ‘focus on what you want’ and your life will change. I find myself more and more stuck and not attracting good things.

Many friends have pointed out that I seem to be so focused on learning how to live I haven’t got a life!!! It’s true I am focused on becoming financially free and that takes most of my time and energy, but my point is am I sabotaging myself by digging so deep into my psyche?”

MY ANSWER

Sara, did you notice how you perked-up when you read the statement that 98% of self-help out there is dead wrong? That’s because it ‘rings true’ for you. When we hear something that ‘rings true’ for us - we get lighter, clearer and excited. This perking-up is a sign that we’re on the right track. As though we’ve just been reminded of something we knew - but simply forgot.

My advice for you is to STOP buying books and programs and start DETOXING yourself from conventional self-help. The first step is to pay attention to how certain books, websites and emails make you FEEL.

If you tell the truth, most of the self-help you digest leaves you confused, contracted, fearful and scared - as though you need to be a different person and ‘control your thoughts’ in order make your life work.

And most gurus teach you how to reach goals and attract things in the future rather than give you the keys to having a brilliant life NOW. These are the books and programs I suggest you chuck.

Don’t even give them away - you’ll just be spreading misguided confusion disguised as ’self-improvement’. And Lord knows we don’t need more of that. Now other, more rare books and programs leave you feeling wise, confident and more centered in YOU and your wisdom. They make sense on a heart level - not just an intellectual one. These are the programs, emails and books to hang onto.

Your biggest challenge will be admitting that most of your self-help is toxic. Once you do, however, you’ll have a lot more time and energy to invest in what you’ve got right now. And let’s be honest. We can all get addicted to things that make us feel desperate (weird but true) because the marketing is good and the promises are so seductive. But that doesn’t mean it you can’t break free. (I did and so do my Private Clients. All we can say is “Hallelujah!”)

You’ll have to develop AWARENESS around toxic self-help and get bigger than your addiction to fix yourself. Unlearning all the stuff that doesn’t work is one of the biggest challenges I have with my on-one-one clients.

Fortunately for me (and them) I’ve become expert at helping people unlearn the junk and see clearly for themselves. I also crack the whip with my clients if I hear they’re ‘dipping into’ programs or books that derail their well-being.

If you’d like me to help you detox and ‘unlearn’ all the stuff that’s holding you back, download a VIP Client Application here.

Second, diving into your psyche is usually a problem because it’s done from a PSYCHOLOGICAL approach. In case you haven’t noticed, figuring out why you are the way you are doesn’t do diddly to change anything. Nor does it give you you the practical tools to CREATE the results you want. That’s why I teach people how to COMPLETELY abandon ‘analyzing your thoughts’ and adopt a more curious, inquisitive and scientific approach when it comes to self-realization. Being able to clearly see how you are and what you think - without judging yourself for what you discover - is a learnable skill set. Just like playing tennis or learning how to cook a good meal.

Once someone shows you how, you can practice and keep refining your ability. It becomes a fun and exciting journey of self-discovery that serves you for life. And when it comes to transforming your ‘bad relationship habits’ and dissolving reoccurring ‘behavior patterns’, the art of neutral observation works about 10,000 times faster than anything I’ve ever seen and requires ZERO effort.

It’s actually a primary tool I’m teaching in my upcoming “Live In The Moment Secrets” course. (More on that soon….)

Finally, many people try to ‘attract’ things because they’re chronically unhappy with what they have right now. You see, attracting things from a place of being dissatisfied is like blindly treating the symptom instead of curing the disease.

Unless you take care of the root problem, those symptoms will reappear again and again and keep getting worse. The good news is that once you take care of the root problem (in this case, the dissatisfaction) attracting things happens effortlessly. In fact, you won’t even have attention on ‘attracting’ things because life gets so darn easy and clear that you don’t bother wasting time trying to ‘improve’ it!

(That’s right - you spend more time LIVING your life rather than working on ‘how to do it right’

So let’s wrap this up. It’s not that there’s anything wrong with The Law of Attraction, but if you’re UNAWARE of fundamental knowledge about how the MIND and AWARNESS works, nothing you ‘attract’ will ever satisfy you.

(Not to mention, you probably won’t be able to really attract what you want because you’re missing out on a few other Universal Laws that affect the Law of Attraction!) Thanks again for your question Sara and let me know how it goes…

As I mentioned earlier, I’m planning to dive deep with the concept of awareness on my upcoming “Live In The Moments Secrets” course. (I also explain it in my book Make Every Man Want You (or Make Yours Want You More): How To Be So Damn Irresistible You’ll Barely Keep From Dating Yourself!)

In my experience, ‘clear seeing’ is one of the most valuable and life altering abilities you can develop. If you’re tired of all the self-help out there that doesn’t actually help and are ready for a SIMPLE and EASY approach that supports authentic brilliance in every area of your life NOW, I invite you to join my R&D team.

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Marie

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