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Ever wonder why some people make things happen and others seem to struggle?
In today’s video training you’ll learn how to break free from what I call the “cycle of self-deception.”
You’ll also learn about two four-letter words that can make or break your success.
And finally, I’ll show you a simple, fool-proof exercise to help you get whatever you want, whenever you want it.
Be sure to watch till the end because there are two questions I’d like you to answer.
So whatcha think?
Do you have any proof about the decision coming first?
How about ways you use the “lack of money/lack of time” excuse?
Leave a comment below. I’d love to hear from you!
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Hi Marie!
Thanks for your great training video! Thanks for a great website. Love it! “The Decision Comes First” has shaped up in my life as a constant (when I have made them that is). When I have been half hearted about a decision, the result has been half hearted – funny that! In fact when I reflect on how I have allowed so much of my life over the last few years to amble “inbetween decisions” I realise where ALL of my energy has gone.
But, NO MORE! Here’s a bit of my story:
In 1995 I opened my recruitment business here in Perth Australia. My husband (Ricky) and I had clear dreams of what we wanted to achieve – we wrote everything down, put time lines on when we wanted to create them by, created a business plan that enabled those dreams to be fulfilled (thought it would take about 10 years) and by end of year 4 those dreams were fulfilled. Done! Dusted! Wow! I was shocked at the rapidity of our success. That is another story! Alot has happened since then and our business has morphed several times in that period and right now, having been working with a coach, emersing myself in Tony Robbins’ material and looking at everything that is available in life, I see that life can be lived exactly as I want it; in short, for a while up until last year, my flame had dwindled and I couldn’t work out why. I was bored of doing the things I used to do. I was living my life in the same old pattern! Little wonder the flame nearly petered out. So, over the the last few months, I have done what your training video teaches. I have gotten clear about how I want it to live my life and I have made a decision! In fact, I have made heaps of decisions. AND IT FEELS GOOD! Once the decision is made the energy that comes through takes care of the rest. Its good to reconnect with that. Just wanted to say thank you for this training – the timing is spot on. I’m now going to explore the rest of your website. Thanks a million! Ali
Marie,
Great video! So much I want to say in a small place… I love your book, love your tips, love how I am inspired to be a better me. Your tips are so spot on and practical. Also, very doable. My friends are always talking about ‘the rules’ of dating, how there are no good guys and generally commiserating about how one day things will be better when x,y or z happens. I have stopped participating in these conversations.
I, myself, have always said I am a lemonade girl – life gives me lemons and I am going to make lemonade. Well, I am upbeat and optimistic even when it was raining lemons. I realized I was always expecting lemons though. Working with the universe and being more proactive has made a difference in my life. A specific example of making a decision first then having things fall into place was when I decided to open my business. Now, things didn’t just fall into place. It took work and determination, but it happened.
I have been using the word can’t more often than I realize. I am going make that shift to won’t or don’t want to starting now. (I had a date that I did not want to go on, I said that I could not tonight. I am going to tell I do not want to at all, not just tonight.)
Thank you for the insight! Please keep up the wonderful work!
I believe a few people makes things happen because they don’t give up in life. I have noticed that when you start a project, many people keep telling you that you are crazy, or waste your time, or spend too much money in it, but also noticed that only a very small portion of people tends to believe in you.
You could make everything happen in your life, it is a question of choice, determination and will.
The only thing for now we cannot choose is life and death but of course this will change in the future, with the cloning, artificial life, some scientist believe that death will be a thing of the past in a few 1000s years.
Anyway, I say good luck for everyone wishing to make things happen
Enjoy!
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love it
spot on
I wanted an apartment near a friend and I got a great one in the same building.
After i got the apartment I decided I wanted a more quiet apartment and the apartment in the back of the building came available.
I get what I want…once I decide what I want.
I want a great teaching job at a NY area University! NYU Columbia or Rutgers!
Yes! Yes! The decision comes first! I get it..I’ve got to be SUPER Clear about what I want..Vague decisions will get vague results..makes perfect sense.
I’m pretty sure I’m using the I-don’t-have-enough-time excuse for everything…I’m blowing off the kids so I can”get stuff done” but they keep interrupting me while I’m doing it..I’m making the decision to become a professional mommy when I’m with them. I even paused this video to be present and tie some shoes! More fun w/the kids will free me up to be creative and present w/all my decision making…I’m sure of it.
Hi Marie,
Totally loved this video – Thank you so much for sharing.
One instance in my life where the decision came first was with my weight loss.
In March 2009 I weighed about 244 and was completely not feeling well in mind, body and spirit. I said to myself – I’ve got to lose (a lot) of weight. Then my action was to start walking everyday,then a gym membership, then worked with a trainer for a little while – then one day, I met a woman (a really good friend now) at the gym who to this day guides me nutrition wise and with one on one exercises and now I’m 186 and still pressing toward what I decided more than a year ago – Don’t know where I would be without that decision – I suspect, not here.
I try to be honest about what I want to do. It was good to really focus on times when I say I can’t.Really, the truth is, I can do anything!
I went on a trip to Ghana, West Africa a little over a year ago. Before the trip I met a guy who was working for an organization in Ghana that helps woman and children to survive and take care of themselves on a daily basis. I knew the organization needed a computer to help grow their business. I decided to raise money to purchase them a computer. I ended up raising double the money I had planned on just by writing a letter to family and friends explaining what I was doing. Besides purchasing a compter, I had a second one donated and I still had $1000.00 left. Once I arrived in Ghana, I became good friends with one on the boys in the village. With the money I rasied, I helped pay for the remainder of his high school. I also orgnized and funded the construction of a floor for an elemenatry school for orphans. When I started this endeavor, the only thing I planned to do was purchase a computer. All of these other conquests happened as a result making a decision. I do beleive that by making decisions and taking action that the universe helps to make bigger and greater happen. It was one of the most amazing experiences of my life but now a year later, I feel stuck again and don’t know which direction to go in or how to continue making amazing things happen. i get how to do it and it’s amazing when you do but I’m just not sure what to do next.
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Hi Fredrik,
I don’t believe in “voodoo” and it would totally turn me off if Marie taught that. I think what we have here is the power of positive psychology without using that term. BUT, the word “psychology” turns a lot of people off…so Marie probably just tried to simplify things and not possibly turn people off with that word. At the same time it is kind of cool that she just lets us decide what we want about the “why” part. She then just focuses on getting the results. That is my take on this. I have read a lot about optimism, positive thinking and depression. It is proven that athletes that train with positive visualization perform better than those that don’t. Most books with a cognitive approach to depression explain that thoughts prelude our emotions. Point being that we usually can decide how we feel about things and aren’t at the mercy of our feelings and whims. So, I don’t think this stuff works miracles, but I think it is very powerful and a lot of the people around here like to use the term “miracle” or “magic” in a poetic sense, which is fun. Why not? That is how I take it.
Just to add to the personal experience discussion…
Looking back on my life I realize when I’ve made a decision I have made things happen. About 12 years ago I became determined to get out of $6000 debt that was killing me due to my low earnings. I was a nanny in Oregon. How the heck was I going to ever pay my bills off asap making $8.00 an hour?!!! Well, I made the decision I HAD TO get out of debt before I could pursue anything else in my life and lo and behold my roommate discovered what live-in nannies made in NYC. At the time up to $500 or more a week. It was strange, and I’ve never forgotten how calm and sure I was about my decision to move to NYC. Even after tearing up at the airport I still knew I was doing the right thing for me. I didn’t have a job yet. Anyhow…things just worked out…did I love it? NO. Who would want to live like that forever? BUT, I paid off all of my debt in 7 months!! And could start life financially with a clean slate. I was determined. I meet people all the time that complain about being in debt, and I’ve known firsthand that if they were serious about getting out of debt and staying out of debt they would figure out a way to do it. I’m living proof! And things financially and work-wise have just kept getting better and better. I’m still debt free, have a good job, savings, profit sharing, IRA…lil’ ol me!
Thanks for sharing! What an amazing story!!
You go, girl!
It’s totally cool that you have no idea how yet. You don’t need to be able to “see” every step to make it happen. You only have to identify the first step and take it. The next steps will unfold as you go.
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Love your story Rina! Thanks so much for sharing it!
best, Eleanor
Hey Cheryl!
My name is Lisa Wilder. I co-facilitate the RHH Virtual Mastery program with Marie.
I just had to jump in here to clarify….
You certainly can’t control others which is why it’s important in an instance like this to look at what it is you REALLY want and to recognize that getting too specific about how you expect it to show up, far from helping you, will only get in your way.
If you want a specific guy to be interested in you…the T exercise probably isn’t going to work. But ask yourself what it is that you REALLY want.
Is it to have an amazing relationship with a man you’re wild about and who is wild about you? Now that’s something you can use the T exercise for…with the understanding that you need to be open to the possibility that your dream man may show up looking very different than you’d thought.
In my experience, it’s always best to be very open to whatever you want showing up in a completely unexpected way because it often does.
Using Marie’s example of wanting 10,000….all of her examples of possible ways to attain it are excellent, but don’t overlook the possibility that if, for example, you want the money for a down on a house…that what might show up is an opportunity to buy with no money down.
Going deeper and really exploring what it is that you really want, opens up additional avenues for it to show up.
Warmly,
Lisa
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Hi Lyn,
My name is Lisa Wilder. I co-facilitate the RHH Virtual Mastery program with Marie.
I just couldn’t resist jumping in here in to share a story about my mother.
She too wanted to retire from her job and wanted to work part-time from home on her own editing business and like you, she was afraid of what that might mean for her financially. She couldn’t quite see how she’d replace the income.
She finally decided (the decision comes first
to make the leap anyway and not a week later…she got a letter in the mail from a company she’d worked for years earlier, letting her know that she was due to begin receiving a monthly pension from them.
She had NO clue that she was eligible to receive a pension from the company prior to receiving the letter and she actually wound up making MORE than she’d made at the job she quit.
Sometimes we just have to go for it. One of the keys to success in any endeavor is learning to fail with enthusiasm. And understanding that there really is no such thing as failure…only lessons in how not to do something that give us clues to how to do it right.
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Hey Nora,
Marie is out of town for the next few days, so I thought I’d jump in here.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with working a job to fund your biz if that’s what you need to do right now.
You said “you think” you need it….well do you or don’t you?
Take a good look at your income and expenses and really evaluate whether or not you need that income. If you do…then great…keep at it while exploring new possibilities for increasing the biz revenue so you can let the part-time job go.
If you discover you don’t really need the income…then it may simply be a matter of taking the leap despite the fear.
Warmly,
Lisa
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Hi Amber,
It’s natural to go through cycles. All of nature does and we’re no exception.
When you find yourself in a bit of a lull after a period of intense creativity or activity it may simply be that you need a bit of time to rejuvenate your energy. This can be a great time to play with ideas and possibilities. To ponder what it is that you want next without pressuring yourself to get into action this second.
On the flip side, if you’ve already identified what you want to go after next and are just having a hard time motivating yourself I’d encourage you to find a great support network. Being part of a group who gets you and is on a similar track gives you others to share your excitement with and to help keep your passion and inspiration high.
It’s all too easy to let the excitement wane, when you don’t have someone to share it with. And having others around to deliver a loving kick in the ass never hurts either. LOL….
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Hey Monica…what almost worked?
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Hi Roxana,
It sounds as though your mind is telling you that you “should” have seen results by now. Thoughts like that will most definitely create frustration, because they’re in complete opposition to the reality of the situation…that you haven’t yet seen the ultimate result you’re striving for.
Practice becoming aware of when your mind is full of those frustration-inducing thoughts and bring your attention back to THIS moment and the positive pro-active steps you can take toward your goal.
No one said it would be easy.
But if you persevere, and keep taking whatever pro-active steps you can think to take…you WILL see results.
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You are so welcome Rebecca and what an amazing story. I’m so thrilled you are modeling this for your kids!
thank YOU Kelly
Hey Molly! YAY for Katie and thank you so much for your comment and CONGRATS on your new business partner
So glad to have you here!
Oh, Marianne! Thanks so much for sharing the link to Steve’s video! Absolutely priceless, brilliant, and hysterical.
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Matt – I got really excited when I read the last part of your post about the coaching you want to do with young adults. It is soooo great to see people like you with a passion to help young people pursue their own dreams. Too often I see people going into a career or following a path just because the people around them want it or expect it. So kudos to you and I wish you ALL the best in your venture!
Jess
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Oooo…you go, girl! So what’s next?!
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Melody – You rock!!! Love yours and your client’s success stories.
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Hey Justyna!
For more juicy content before the first Virtual Mastery call next week, dive into all the bonus content. That ought to keep you busy for a bit.
xo
L
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Excellent points, Katharina! Thanks so much for taking the time to share them.
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Thank YOU, Mark!
I took a peek at your blog, Mark…and it looks like we’re spreading a very similar message. The more the merrier…
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